Gift Etiquette
I have a friend who is 30 years old. He is educated and intelligent. He lives outside the country. So meetings are almost non-existent. There is very little talk on the phone. Two days ago his audio message came He is sending mangoes to a friend. I thought I would tell him to send you too. Will you take me from the bus stand and also tell me whether you eat mangoes or not.
I laughed when I heard the message and I remembered the joke in which the host said to the guest, "Have some food. We had to throw it in the dustbin anyway." I sent them a reply.
Thank you very much sir. You don't consider me worthy of this. I don't eat mangoes, so don't bother at all. Everything else is available from Islamabad. However, I would like to ask you just to explain. Yes, he has manners too. When you tell someone that my brother was sending someone, I thought I would send you too or you will go to some place and receive your gift or you will eat it. Whether or not it is an insult to others. It means you are underestimating others. Gifts are honorable. It is important to take care of the self esteem of others. He thought I could not understand his sincerity, his love so much that he declared his separation from me.
I regretted it for a long time after that. I thought I shouldn't have said that. I should have quietly endured. But then I thought. How to make corrections? Take this example. My friend could have said, "Give me your address. I want to send you mangoes."
It would have been an honorable way to hit three shoes, but the question is, was it just my friend who made the mistake? no Please! Most of us usually hit such "chol". I used to make such mistakes myself and my seniors used to correct me. For example, I was coming to Islamabad from Lala Musa in 1996.
I bought a brand new Mehran car and considered myself Kotata and Birla. Chaudhry Fazal Hussain was my teacher. He was the principal of Zamindar College Gujarat. His students were spread all over the world. I have never seen such an elegant person. He was also full of humor.
He used to give short speeches every morning during the assembly in the college. People from all over the college and its environs used to come to the college at eight o'clock in the morning to listen to his speech. Sahib lived in Jhelum. He had come to Lala Musa for a function.
I offered him a drop on the way. Chaudhry Sahib gladly agreed to go with me. He started to get in the car. Sir, where will you be humiliated on the bus? I am passing through Jhelum. I will leave you on the way.
Chaudhry was an elegant and handsome man. He smiled and said, "Son, I have been humiliated on buses all my life. I can be humiliated even today, but I thought, 'I enjoy the company of an educated young man like you for an hour.' "My back is drenched in sweat. Even today, when I remember this incident, I am embarrassed.
But that is the day and today, whenever I give a lift to someone or send a car for someone in my life, I always humbly ask, 'Sir, if you go with me, it will be my honor,' I want to learn from you. Will have a chance or sir my driver knows the place well 'it will take you easily or will bring you' it will save you a lot of time.
Most of us make this mistake. They go to someone and say, "I was passing by. I thought I'd meet you." They have been very kind by passing through here and visiting your office or home and secondly they are considering you so empty and useless they come to you whenever they want and it is your duty to stand with open doors and arms. Be done
Try not to make the mistake of saying, 'This is a simple trick.' If you allow them, you can meet them, otherwise go to meet them exclusively on another day. Similarly, it is excessive to meet someone while walking or passing by.
Many of us would say while giving clothes or shoes to someone, "I bought this suit, this shirt or pants, but it turned out to be tight or loose." I bought it from London. I'm tired of it. You take it. It's also a simple insult to another person.
Instead, pack those clothes or shoes and give them to your worker or someone in need. You will be rewarded and your heart will be satisfied and if you have really bought shoes or clothes of wrong size and You did not use it and if you want to give it to a friend, you should "repack" it and give it to your friend or dear relative.
He will be happy. 'Why do I need to hit this chow? It was too tight or too loose for me, so take it.' The acquaintance had done this to a friend of his, who gave him a new Russell & Bramble shoe and said that he had bought it from London for five hundred pounds.
It's annoying to me. I haven't worn it in a day. It will come to you. Take it. Hearing this, the person in front of me turned red. Son, this Naveed Sahib has brought for you from London. You show them wearing them. The driver is happy.
There was a color on Naveed's face and one was going away. We are also addicted to asking Punjabi price. We will ask him the price of 'We will also ask him the area of the house or flat, for example, how many marlas is it in?' How much time did it take to make and how much did it cost? And where did you get this shirt and how much did you get it? It is also an insult to others.
If you like someone's clothes, openly praise them. If they think it's appropriate, they will tell you the name of the tailor or the brand. Remember that and go back to the tailor or the shopkeeper. Ask for details. If this is not possible then you should openly compliment. Go home.
Why? Because asking the price means you look at things from a business or butcher's point of view, rather than from an aesthetic sense, and in your eyes the value of the thing, not the thing itself, is the value, and this move is both indecent and cheap. Someone's guest was 'My host was a wonderful cultured man' and I fell in love with his shirt.
I complimented him wholeheartedly. He was happy. During the meal he complimented me on my frivolous T-shirt. Yes, and it is not good at all. He said, "I like it very much. We ate." I returned to the hotel.
The next evening my host's driver came and gave me a gift pack from him. When I opened it, it was the same shirt he had worn the night before. I was happy. I branded it two the next day. Send ties. He was also happy when I used to do what I used to do in the time of Jahiliyyah. I would immediately ask the price of the item and the shop and become the face of another poor person.
Remember that the gift is Sunnah, it is a sacred and exquisite thing, so when we give a gift to someone, we should consider it Sunnah, worship it, give it with honor and respect, do not make it a charity, Hearts are broken.
Note:
If someone has to send us a gift, send it in this way, otherwise it will be taken and then it will not be accepted.
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